Tuesday, January 31, 2012

My best friend for 30 years finally met my best friend for life :)

They are finally here :) my sister and my nephew came in today. My heart has been bursting with excitement counting down the days & hours till they came... And when they did i was so happy. And christie, well she cried when she saw my son. And when i saw my nephew, I could not let him go.

For the first time in 6 months I felt like my present and my past mixed in together and it's such a good place to be at. No, it's not just a good place to be at, it's a wonderful place for my heart to be. God knows how much I needed this. And I have a week to enjoy this feeling.

My sister met my husband for the first time. My best friend for 30 years has finally met my best friend for life. I also met my nephew for the first time. It's a lot of first times. But it's also a lot of familiarity. My sister only needs to take one look at me and my heart just began pouring out about everything that God has done in the past 6 months...I mean, she knows what's been going on in my life, but it's different when things are said face to face. And it feels wonderful to be able to talk to someone without having to explain who you are, how you think, how you used to be, how your mind works, who you were in the past. She's known me all her life, so there really isn't much to hide. The first 12 hours of her being here has refreshed me so much already! And the sunset wasn't so bad today either! :) All in all it was a very good day!

My heart loves being surrounded by people who I can be me with. I can be crazy and vulnerable and real with them and they have earned my respect and trust for them to speak into my life & correct me if they have to. I think that's what i miss most since i moved out here, coz im still trying to get to know and meet new people.

This is why im so very thankful God knew He had to bring me a best friend for life instantaneously.... Coz He knows how much I absolutely needed to be known by another person, especially in the vulnerable areas of my heart. It would have been very hard these past 6 months to carry all the thoughts and ideas and fears in my head alone. My heart is so thankful I have a husband to lead me, guide me an support me, but also challenge me to help me grow.

But having my sister here and reading this Word made me realize that even though I have covering and friends who know me and pray for me in LA & i have a couple of friends who know my heart well here, I desperately need more friends here in Hawaii. Not just friends, but i need more mentors and other women to grow with who are also in ministry. I know its only been 6 months & its quite impossible to be able to build friendships this fast... but I know in order for me to survive in the long run, this extroverted heart has to find like-hearted people in this island who can walk with me, guide me, mentor me, challenge me and grow me. i love my church & the people in it, but with a church of only 30 people, our resources can only do so much to help grow me as a minister of God's Word.

Building with others out side of my natural environment means taking a risk of putting my heart out there. taking that risk means i have a 50% of being hurt by others.... But it also means that if I take that risk, I have a 50% chance to build quality friendships (especially friendships with other god-fearing women) that will help me grow in this next season of my life....

It's time to risk those chances. It's time to spread my wings and fly.

Monday, January 30, 2012

That's what she said :)

Gotta love my nephew! And @nikkinews for the fab onesie! I get to see him tomorrow! Yay!

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Late night go-to snack.

I used to love eating cereal at night but recently the mr introduced me to peanut butter and blueberry yogurt for a late night. We watch friends reruns/tv and eat this concoction of yummy goodness.

What's your late night go-to snack.

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Goodbye Nala.

I still remember when i first got you. http://www.ricianne.com/2010/04/41810-meet-nala.html. You were such a good car to me. Be good to your next owners okay?

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Favorite Disney Character.

Words of wisdom from My favorite Disney character: Edna Mode :) for a little lady (or a shim) she has so much spunk and so much attitude and sass :) I like her (him) a lot!

  • "I never look back, dahling. It distracts from the now"
  • "Yes, words are useless. Gobble, gobble, gobble. There is too much of it, darling. Too much. That is why I show you my work! That is why you are here!"
  • "well I'm sure I don't know darling; luck favors the prepared... So I covered the basics"
  • "no capes"
  • "my God you've gotten fat"
  • "supermodels - ha! Nothing super about them. Spoiled, stupid little stick figures with poofy lips who think only about themselves. Feh! I used to design for gods!!!
  • "you can't! It's impossible. I'm far too busy, so ask me now before I again become sane.

And my favorite quote:
  • "what are you talking about? You are elastigirl! My god, pull yourself together!!! What will you do?? Is...is...is this a question? You will show him that you remember that he is mr. Incredible! And you will remind him who you are! Well you know where he is... go! Confront the problem! Fight! Win! And call me when you get back dahling, I enjoy your visits"

Who is your favorite Disney character?

Monday, January 23, 2012

Massage and friends.

John is on the floor. He wants a massage coz his back hurts. Guess he's pretty lucky I'm a certified masseuse.

And im pretty lucky that he likes watching FRIENDS with me and laughs at all the stupid things I laugh at.

Fair trade I guess ;)

Saturday, January 21, 2012

It's a boy and his name is kenzo.

Visited my friends Tim and Blanca and their new baby boy Kenzo.

Friday, January 20, 2012

Family date night. Feed 3 for less than $10 & u might get a massage if you're lucky

Where can u get a meal for 3 people and get dessert for less than $10?!? Where else but costco :)))

Plus u can get samples galore inside and if you are lucky and all the massage chairs are plugged in... You can even get a free massage :) and you can walk off all the calories you ate.

Costco.. The place to be on a Friday night ;)

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Bad hair day.

Hi! My name is Bambam. I am a shih-tzu. Or atleast I'm supposed to be a shih-tzu. Instead I look like a mutt. I see pics of other shih-tzu's on the web and I say to myself "wow look at all that hair" then I look in the mirror and I see what my master has done to me... And I get all depressed.

She absolutely has no clue how to cut my hair... but she tries anyway coz she's trying to save some money. I don't really like that dave ramsey guy very much!! He needs to stay out of my business. I say she needs to get me to the groomers STAT. My beard isn't even the same size. How embarrassing to my line of breed. She treats me like I'm some mongrel! Siiiigh.

I guess she's feeling the whole short hair / bald thing... Coz the guy she married... He's nice and all but well... his hair seems to be thinning out too (don't tell her i said that). And my master gets her son buzzed cut and he gets lined up each time he gets a haircut. I'm guessing she thinks it's a good look or something.

I say she's crazy. I also say she's jealous that if she grows my hair long, my hair will look prettier than her split-ended, dry hair. But it's okay coz I love her anyway. She feeds me good food and she rescued me from the street and gave me a bed and a warm home and she gives pretty good hugs so I guess me not having pretty hair is a fair trade for all she's done.

I still think she's secretly jealous of my hair ;) I wonder what she'll do to me if I buzz her hair. The thought is very tempting! *evil smile*

That's it for now.

Xoxo - Bambam

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Acting my "wage" & now teaching my husband to do the same.

My sister at coming the end of this month with her baby. I saw this sun shade for $20 and immediately thought to myself "i want one and the baby needs it! why should I borrow a shade if I can have one myself for $20?" I really wanted to buy it. But I stopped and asked myself "do I really need it now?" and the answer was no. So I walked away from the tent. At first i was sad but then i ended up smiling at myself coz I had once again mastered the art of "acting my wage".

As long as i've been a single mom (11 years now), I've lived an extremely frugal life style. A single income (of about $1200 a month) with 2 people to feed meant learning to pinch your pennies and saying NO to yourself (and your child) when you want to buy certain things, because I couldn't afford it at all. But I also learned to say no because I found out about Dave Ramsey and i was very determined to "act my wage" and "give every dollar a name" and it all went to food, shelter, christian's needs and getting out of debt.

Even Christian started listening to Dave Ramsey Jr. And he learned to use his money wisely, to give to tithes and offerings and save up. For someone who doesn't get any allowance, he's saved up $500 of his own money for his college fund! That's a big chunk of savings from someone who doesn't even get allowance since he's homeschooled.

There was no dollar that didn't have a name or an allocation. Each dollar went into an "envelope". Because of that I was able to live off of $1200 a month paying rent, food, and all our needs. But I never had enough to save.

So when I left my comfort zone and ventured into ministry and raising support... it also meant an unstable amount of income coming in on a monthly basis. (On some months like this month - I only have about $1000...On other months I have $1500). Every month is an adventure :) and because it's not a fixed income, I still live the life of pinching pennies and saving and saying NO to buying unnecessary things.... But now with a lil bit of extra money, I used that to save up for an "emergency fund". And I was able to save my first $1000 emergency fund and even add to that.

Then, i got married and I thought things would change a bit.... I thought i'd be able to buy more things and actually splurge a lil bit more since it's now a two income household. BUT i realized that i cannot shake off the lifestyle I live to give every dollar a name....

Sooooo I introduced my then boyfriend to Dave Ramsey and Financial Peace University. I told him if he ever wanted to marry me, he had to listen to the cd's first. And now he's hooked. :))))))

I told him we were not going to get married with debt on our heads. He wanted to give me the world and the wedding of my dreams (because he loves to shower people he loves with gifts), but i wanted him to learn about financial peace. So we decided to have a small wedding here in hawaii. We had enough money saved up so we could both pay for all expenses in cash. The dress and alteration paid for in cash. The rings were paid for in cash. The food was paid for in cash. And we had to say NO to inviting more people because we had to stick with our budget. The wedding was simple yet beautiful, meaningful and fun and God's presence was definitely felt...and it was all within our budget. 

Now that we have another wedding in LA to save up for, we are once again pinching pennies to pay for the whole thing in cash. It means making a choice to inviting only family and really close friends (even if I want to invite the world), having the wedding at a backyard instead of some grand hotel with an ocean view and finding way and ideas to get creative but not spend a fortune.

We are now also working on our envelope system, our budget, how to give, how to live on cash, to stop splurging on unnecessary expenses (ex: learning to eat at home instead of outside... brewing your own coffee instead of buying at starbucks) and we are going to try our hardest to save for an emergency fund, life insurance, retirement, etc and fight our way to get out of debt.

Because just like Dave Ramsey says: "We desire to live like no one else, so tomorrow we can live like no one else."

If u want to live in financial peace and start acting your wage....Let me introduce you to "Dave Ramsey". :)

Monday, January 16, 2012

You can take the kid out of LA.

You can take the kid out of LA but you can't take LA out of the kid. Purple and gold and sunday whites on his bedroom wall :) Coz he loves him some basketball. And he loves him some lakers.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

sundays look like

Our 3rd Sunday schedule usually look like this:

- Get ready an load up the truck for setup for Sunday service.
- set up the room 
- buy breakfast/coffee for the church 
- have Sunday worship service.
- Take down chairs/tables/etc 
- unload the truck.
- Do Costco runs for food for meeting.
- have our once a month Leadership meetings
- Have our Sunday dinner with the leaders of the church.

This is how we do church on Sundays.

It's very different from what i was used to in LA because we had our own building and our own space there with about 300 members..... But i remember when the church in LA didnt even have 100 people and it was fun to see the church grow and be a part of its growth in some way.

Right now, our church in hawaii is a mobile church and we have an average of 35 people....it's a very different dynamic from what I'm used to but I'm so thankful God called me to be a part of this spiritual family! God has great things in store for this church...after all He wouldn't send His favorite all the way here just to get married alone (although what a wonderful surprise that was) ;)

I know God definitely has got something up His sleeve and I am excited and expectant to see what God can do. Coz if God can put a thousand in flight with one person, now that we got 2 people in full time staff... We can definitely put 10,000 to flight.

And if I was able to see God move the church and triple it's size in LA then I know He can do the same here... Coz He is the same God yesterday, today and forever.

We are definitely believing for our church to grow in size by this year. Please be praying for us and with us to see His praises proclaimed in the islands and for Him to use our church to be part of His voice to proclaim His praises. (Isaiah 42)

Friday, January 13, 2012

more than my flesh.

tea at Starbucks, a pen, my bible, my mr. and my journal. Taking the time to listen and hear God's heart for this new season while waiting for the kiddo (who's at his youth group) fills my heart and my soul.

Day 6 of die to self 2012. There's nothing like hearing God's promises and reading His word. There's nothing like telling your body that you need the Word more than food. It feels good to prove to your body that you are more than your hunger & desires and the Spirit man is stronger than the flesh.

So thankful for The Word & His Spirit that brings fuel to my soul and grants me the strength to move in His grace.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

My #1 ministry.

Because my greatest calling & my number one ministry, next to worshiping God, is to be the wife and mother God has called and made me to be. And I take much pride in that call, but i also am humbled that God would call me to support another person with my heart and raise up a next generation world changer. I don't take this calling lightly. That is why I've fought to homeschool my child, even if it was hard to do so as a single mother, because I believe Christian was my first priority (over my dreams, over my job, over my ambition, over other people). And now I feel that same way about my husband.

You see, my husband and i grew up in a divorced homes and we would never wish that pain we felt on any child or any couple. My son grew up fatherless for 11 years and I raised him as a single parent and I would never wish that on anyone as well.

So my desire is to study up on what it means to be a wife and continue to study about being a parent and glean wisdom & knowledge from others who have much more knowledge than I, on what marriage & parenting really means. From reading books & blogs, to receiving counsel & hearing advice of to those who have been married for some time, to attending workshops and to asking the elderly what they think their greatest mistakes were when they raised their kids so I don't repeat other's folly. And my heart is to be able to share that same knowledge to others and counsel others  who have an open heart to hear it.

Because if every wife/husband/parent put as much effort learning to be a better wife/husband/parent the same way they put effort in learning what they did in school (or work)... I believe the world will be a much better place.

"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered. (Proverbs 28:26 ESV)"

day 6: die to self 2012

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Coffee equals.

Coffee = love.

I love coffee. It's my choice of poison. I don't drink soda, I hardly drink beer (or any liquor)... and I seldom drink juice. The only other drink that can compare to coffee for me would be a iced black tea with a splash of lemonade :)

What's your choice of poison?

Monday, January 9, 2012

One of my favoritest views.

One of my favoritest views here in the island = The view from the h3 right after the tunnel driving into kailua/kaneohe.

I went to that side of the island and drove to visit grandpa & grandma c today just to say hello since it was my day off. It was nice to spend time with them and glean wisdom from the experiences they have as a married couple. (they have been together for over 59years going on 60 this June).

Scenic views + spending time with new family + gleaning wisdom. What more can I ask for to do on my sabbath? :)

Saturday, January 7, 2012


Listening to my husband worship God while I talk to someone on the phone. The person who called said they prayed for us and what has been impressed in their heart during prayer was an exact confirmation of what God has been speaking to our hearts recently.

So thankful that we serve such an amazing God who dances and sings His promises over us continuously.

"You dance over me while I am unaware, you sing all around, while I never hear the sound... Lord I'm amazed by you and how you love me"

Friday, January 6, 2012

According to the students, my new name is: Mama C

His students threw us a mock wedding reception in the band room! How sweet! They spent their own money, decorated the place up & did everything themselves!!! They even performed songs for us!! How sweet! Im so overjoyed! :)

They call him Mr. C. They call me Mama C and they call Christian Lil'C. i love it!!!

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Chasing lizards.

And eating them for a snack! Go Clifford!

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

all things NEW: a journey of new beginnings - my #oneword365 #oneword2012

because i have a new name. 
because i have a new role.
because i have a new title.
because i have a new home.
because i have a new family.
because i have a new song to sing. 
because i have a new spiritual family.
because i have a new beginning.
because He has given me new promises.

He has made ALL THINGS NEW.
"Then He who sat on the throne said, Behold, I make all things NEW. And He said to me, WRITE, for these words are faithful and true. (Revelation 21:5)"

My one word for 2012 is NEW. I know it's kind of cliche since it's the new year, but there's no other word that best describes the season that God has brought me into except that word. It's like He has given me a clean slate and a fresh start and is writing a brand new chapter in my life story. 

Everything in this season is new for me. This is unfamiliar territory and i know unfamiliar territories come with both blessings and trials. but because God has promised that He has made all things new, i am excited and ecstatic, because last year He came through for me and my son and my husband in ways that have exceeded our imagination and i know that with God, i believe (#oneword2011) we only go from faith to faith and strength to strength and glory to glory. 

This season i know i must learn to understand fully the new role i have as a wife. 
This season i need to understand the covering and mantle He has placed upon me with my new role as a minister (no longer a missionary since i married a local boy). 
This season i must learn to balance the role i have as a mother in my new family and home... and learn to submit (since i am no longer head of the household).
This season, i want to find my niche and the specific role i have in my local church and the community, not just as a minister but now a pastor's wife (how many people remember how i swore to never become that?!?)
This season i must learn to spell (and teach others how to spell) my last new last name. 
This season i am to follow and make time to follow His command to write - diligently, truthfully, without reserve - to write and  bring Him glory. (see revelations 21:5)
This season, our family must learn and understand exactly what and why God has brought us into this new season together for such a time as this... and move boldly into our destiny.

He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see what he has done and be amazed. They will put their trust in the Lord. (Psalm 40:3)

My God has made all things new... and i will write for His words have proven faithful and true. I cannot wait to see how 2012 will unfold and i am excited to take you with me and my family along in this journey of new beginnings.

For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth; And the former shall not be remembered or come to mind. But be glad and rejoice forever in what I create; For behold, I create Jerusalem as a rejoicing, And her people a joy. I will rejoice in Jerusalem, And joy in My people; The voice of weeping shall no longer be heard in her, Nor the voice of crying. No more shall an infant from there live but a few days, Nor an old man who has not fulfilled his days; For the child shall die one hundred years old,  But the sinner being one hundred years old shall be accursed. They shall build houses and inhabit them;They shall plant vineyards and eat their fruit. They shall not build and another inhabit; They shall not plant and another eat; For as the days of a tree, so shall be the days of My people, And My elect shall long enjoy the work of their hands. They shall not labor in vain, Nor bring forth children for trouble; For they shall be the descendants of the blessed of the LORD, And their offspring with them. It shall come to pass, That before they call, I will answer; And while they are still speaking, I will hear. (Isaiah 65:17-24)

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Sunday, January 1, 2012

I kissed a frog prince :)