Friday, May 7, 2010

jesus and single moms.

on sunday when you wake up...
no one is going to tell you to rest.
no one is going to tell you that they've got things taken care of.
no one is going to tell you to take a day off.
no one is going to tell you that he's going to take care of the kids.
no husband is going to tell you that you are doing an amazing job
and that they cherish you for it.

on sunday, you will still be cooking, cleaning, and doing the chores.
you will still wake up early and get the children ready.
you will drive. you will fix. you will not be able to relax.
your mind will still be running a-mile-a-second thinking about your to do list..
you will still carry the load that you weren't meant to carry alone.
and there's not a day that you will ever get a break from it.
because you are a single mother. and you really have no choice.
it needs to be done.
THIS IS YOUR LIFE. EVERYDAY.

there are mothers. then there are super single moms. it doesn't matter how and why you got to this position, the fact that you are carrying this weight by yourself, makes you a very strong woman. Jesus made your shoulders strong enough to carry the burdens of parenting solo. and His heart goes out to you.

you see, for a season, His earthly mother was a single mother too. joseph was gone, and mary was left to raise Jesus. she got to see and experience the good things and the bad things that happened to her Son . she carried the weight and the joys and the pain by herself.

when Jesus was on the cross, Jesus asked john to take care of His mother. He did not leave her with relatives, He left her with spiritual family. this was one of His last words. the spiritual implication of that story is heavy and it's vital that the church understands the heart of Jesus behind this. He knows the burden single moms carry every day and asked his beloved disciple to watch and care for this woman. Jesus commanded john to take care of her and john took it upon himself to care for mary.

Jesus expects His disciples, to do the same to single mothers as john did to mary. church, help take care of single mothers and widows, in whatever way you can. as the world celebrates mother's day this sunday.... do not forget the widows and single moms that are in your community or that go to your church. buy them something special, treat them out to dinner, give her a simple gift card, babysit her children or just encourage her and tell her that she is doing a good job. sometimes she just needs to hear the simplest encouragement to keep her going strong. parenting as a couple is hard enough. imagine what it takes to parent solo on a daily basis.

i am extremely blessed as a single mom to have the support of my extended and spiritual family... but there are single moms out there who have no one but their kids. please do what you can to reach out to them today, on mother's day and every day.

i hope and pray that this post encourages you and awakens your soul to help make a difference in the lives of single moms and the fatherless. His heart pains for this Fatherless generation and He has asked His disciples to step in the gap and take it upon ourselves to help in however way we can.

Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother. When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, "Dear woman, here is your son," and to the disciple, "Here is your mother." From that time on, this disciple took her into his home. - John 19:25-27