Tuesday, November 15, 2005


*Got this from an email


by: Theodore Tan

A daughter complained to her father about her life
and how things were so hard for her. She
said, Father, I do not know how I am going to
make it. I just feel like giving up. Im tired of fighting
and struggling. It seems as though every time one
of my problems is solved, a new one comes along.
I just cant take it anymore.

Her father took her to the kitchen. He filled three
pots with water and placed them each on high
heat. Soon, the pots came to a boil. In one pot of
boiling water, he placed carrots. In the second, he
placed eggs, and in the last pot, he placed coffee
beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a
word. The daughter impatiently waited, wondering
what he was doing.

Twenty minutes later, he turned off the burners. He
strained the water from the carrots and placed
them in a bowl. He lifted the eggs out and placed
them in another bowl. Then he ladled the steaming
coffee into a bowl. Turning to her, he asked, What
do you see? Carrots, eggs, and coffee, she
replied. He brought her closer and asked her to
feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were
soft and mushy. He then asked her to take an egg
and break it. After pulling off the shell, she
observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her
to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its
flavor and smelled the rich aroma. She humbly
asked, But what does it mean, Father?

He explained that each of them had been plunged
into boiling water, but each had reacted differently.
The carrot went into the water strong and hard but
after being subjected to the boiling water; it
softened and became weak. The egg had been
fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its soft,
liquid interior. But after sitting in the boiling water,
it became hard on the inside.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however.
After they were in the boiling water, the water did
not really change them. THEY CHANGED THE
WATER! Which are you? the father gently asked
his daughter.

When adversity knocks on your door, how do you
respond? Are you more like a carrot, an egg, or a
coffee bean?

How about you? Are you the carrot that started out
strong and hard long ago, but with the pain and
adversity of your life struggles, did you become
soft and lose your strength?

Are you the egg that started out soft on the inside?
Were you a fluid spirit, but after the pain of death,
abuse, rejection, poor health, divorce, or a layoff,
have you become hardened? Your outer shell
might look the same, but have you become hard-
boiled and toughened in your spirit and your heart?

Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean that was
plunged into the rapidly boiling water actually
changed the hot water and gave it flavor and
aroma, reaching its peak flavor at 212 Fahrenheit!

When people say bad things about you, do your
praises to the Lord continues, or do you blame
Him? When the hour is darkest and your trials are
their greatest, does your worship elevate to a
higher level, or do you desert Him? When you feel
burdened by your own troubles, do you still reach
out and help others? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

When you are plunged into hot water, into
anything that brings you pain, like being immersed
in the adversities of life, be like the coffee bean.
When things are at their worst, you will get
stronger and make things better around you, and
YOU will always leave an aroma thats most
pleasing to others as well as to yourself.

Tuesday, April 12, 2005

the greatest advices

Got this from a forwarded email posted on April 12, 2005 @ 3:14PM

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior. Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder. Don't sell
yourself, your family, or your ideals. Don't stagnate.!
Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.

Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr/Mrs Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won.
Only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what
you can be. Simplify your life. Take away the clutter. Get rid of destructive
elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons. Don't
abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself. Don't commit when you are not ready. Don't keep
others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life. You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It is true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in your God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!

When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.

--Rick Warren

makes a lot of sense to people with senses.....

Monday, March 7, 2005

slow dance.

i just had my first slow dance in 4 years with my baby boy..... he is the sweetest ever....while i was cleaning his stuff up from the floor...we were listening to some love song when he said...."mommy come here....i want to dance with you"...ofcourse i said yes...he stood up on the bed so we could be the "same height" and he took my hands and he laid my head on his shoulders....and we danced the sweetest and best dance that ever.

i never knew love like this before....

ofcourse i was crying (its hard to explain tears of joy to kids)

ahhh....i love being a mom....

*after the dance...he goes on messing up his room....NICE*

from my xanga account: http://www.xanga.com/RiCiAnNe/218023066/item/

Tuesday, February 1, 2005

30 lines.


A forwarded email – posted on February 01, 2005 @ 11:02 AM

1. My husband and I divorced over religious differences. He thought he was
God and I didn't.

2. I don't suffer from insanity; I enjoy every minute of it.

3. I work hard because millions on welfare depend on me!

4. Some people are alive only because it's illegal to kill them.

5. I used to have a handle on life, but it broke.

6. Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive.

7. You're just jealous because the voices only talk to me.

8. Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder.

9. Earth is the insane asylum for the universe.

10. I'm not a complete idiot. Some parts are missing.

11. Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.

12. NyQuil, the stuffy, sneezy, why-the-heck-is-the-room-spinning medicine.

13. God must love stupid people; He made so many.

14. The gene pool could use a little chlorine.

15. Consciousness: That annoying time between naps.

16. Ever stop to think, and forget to start again?

17. Being "over the hill" is much better than being under it!

18. Wrinkled was not one of the things I wanted to be when I grew up.

19. Procrastinate Now!

20. I have a degree in liberal arts; do you want fries with that?

21. A hangover is the wrath of grapes.

22. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a cash advance

23. Stupidity is not a handicap. Park elsewhere!

24. They call it PMS because "mad cow disease" was already taken.

25. He who dies with the most toys is nonetheless dead.

26. A picture is worth a thousand words, but it uses up three thousand
times the memory.

27. Ham and eggs. A day's work for a chicken, a lifetime commitment for a

28. The trouble with life is there's no background music

29. The original point and click interface was a Smith and Wesson.

30. I smile because I don't know what the hell is going on.

*a lot of these are facts that we would never want to admit....